Growth isn’t comfortable



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Life is full of things that test our will, our patience, our strength, and our hearts.  

We all are facing our own demons, our own heartbreaks, and difficulties that leave us questioning the goodness of life and if we can possibly move on.

But alas, we do, and we learn through it all — which is why this growth mindset is so important.


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Do you ever regret setting a huge goal?

One thing that I don’t hear much from people in the personal development and growth space is that GROWTH IS HARD.

I’ve been studying the evolutionary change process for over 15 years now, and what I’ve discovered is that it is very VERY rare for someone to completely transform their life.

And the reason for this is because the nature of growth is that it’s freaking hard and uncomfortable, and most people aren’t willing to do the work that is required to shift and change themselves on a deep, permanent, and cellular level. #TRUTH

The best example of this is my own life.  I am FAR FROM perfect and have studied myself as the ultimate example for many years, especially when it comes to anorexia/bulimia recovery, and healing from depression, anxiety, PTSD and addiction.

I have put my life in the limelight to share with people my challenges, my struggles, my victories and triumphs, in order to provide people with the hope and strength so that they know they are not alone, and that they can do it too.

And here I am yet again in another giant growth cycle and I am completely resisting the growth.  I am holding back out of fear, self doubt and insecurity.  I am completely aware that this is happening which why I’m here calling myself out today.

Truth is, I’ve been holding myself back for over 2.5 years.

Since I allowed my fear to dictate my choices, I struggled with a major health issue for the last 2 years that I just recently cleared up and healed (as a result of embracing the growth and taking steps to move forward).

The biggest reason for the “dis-ease” in my body was ultimately because I was OUT OF ALIGNMENT with my soul.

I declared and set a huge goal in July 2016 just before I moved to California that I was ready for my next level in my business, career, and relationships — and then I had so much fucking fear and resistance come up for me, and I let it stop me.  

Not even 6 months after, I got really sick.

Upon reflection, I can see it now very clearly, but going through it was not so clear.

Within the year after was also the time when I had a major spiritual awakening and my kundalini “popped.”

This was incredibly terrifying for me, as my body was not equipped to handle such a surge of powerful energy shooting through my body, and I spent the last year recovering from this as well in order to become a more fully integrated and grounded divine human being.

Needless to say, things have been pretty rough.

I’ve battled with my deepest held fears and experienced some of the most difficult times of my life going through all of these shifts the past few years.

The reason I’m sharing all of this is because these events that have happened over the last few years have been major obstacles and also have been my biggest OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH.

That’s the thing— that many people fail to realize, that life is happening FOR you, not TO you, and it IS designed for you to triumph if you can learn to embrace the challenge.

Life is full of things that test our will, our patience, our strength, and our hearts.

We all are facing our own demons, our own heartbreaks, and difficulties that leave us questioning the goodness of life and if we can possibly move on.

But alas, we do, and we learn through it all — which is why this growth mindset is so important.

Because if we DON’T cultivate this mindset of growth, where we hold a complete acceptance that growth is uncomfortable, confronting, extremely frustrating and at times tests us to the core… then we are liable to slip into resentment, regret, and wishing things were different.


How many times have you gotten pissed off, cursing to anyone who will listen, “WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?!”

If I’m not careful I can temporarily slip into this kind of victim mentality, and it is SUPER dangerous.

Because when we do, we fall into the trap of not taking responsibility for GROWING through it.

We sit back and think, “well, this is just the way it is” or “it’s not even worth it” or “why even try.”

Worse yet, you might place a load of blame on other people and stew in resentment and regret, replaying the same old memories over and over again in your mind, imagining all the things you wish you did differently, and feeling guilty and ashamed for the things you did or did not do.

Beating yourself up for the past gets you NO WHERE.

The only way to really move on and create an entirely new future and life for yourself, is to first FORGIVE YOURSELF.

You won’t get very far in this old victim mindset if you don’t forgive, release and let go of the chains of the past.

This is a HUGE part of growth, and what has been so important for me to embrace.

When I think back over the last almost 3 years of procrastinating on my BIG DREAM, holding myself back out of fear, and getting super stuck and soul-sick as a result— I will say that I have been fucking PISSED OFF at myself for it.

But slowly over time I realized that blaming myself, blaming God, blaming my ex husband, blaming my parents or whoever else I was unconsciously blaming— just keeps me stuck and playing a victim.

The only way to move forward is to FORGIVE.

The only way to move forward is to LET GO.

The only way to move forward is to make a NEW DECISION.

The new decision that you get to make at this point has to do with the new story that you get to write about your life.

You see, in every moment we have the power to write our story anew in any way that we wish.

It’s only when we hold on to our negative emotions and old limiting beliefs that we stay stuck in the past, repeating our old patterns over and over again.

If we are to TRULY embrace growth mindset, it is going to be MASSIVELY UNCOMFORTABLE.

You’re going to have to feel, process, and release your old toxic emotional baggage and face the truth about yourself and your life.

You’ll have to make a NEW DECISION— that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

I am NO LONGER WILLING to live in the past.

I am ready to LET GO in order to receive the lessons it was here to teach me.

I am WILLING to do the work it takes to overcome this.

You see, that is a huge part of this growth process and something I tell my clients all the time, is that if there is a pattern that keeps showing up in your life over and over again, then you haven’t learned the lessons it was here to teach you yet.

So what is it that you are ready to let go of in order to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for your life? 

Bottom line is that you can’t have reasons and excuses if you want the RESULT.

You can either have REASONS or you can have RESULTS.

So what is it that you are going to need to FORGIVE YOURSELF for in order to really move forward?

I know for me, this means holding myself in compassion and unconditional love for those parts of me that did hold me back for so long.  That sabotaged my progress.  That would rather be comfortable and have me live inside my safe little comfort zone.

I have so much love for all these parts of myself that were just trying to help keep me safe and protected.

While at the same time embracing that my Higher Self has been calling me forward, and in order to fully embody this higher version of me I do need to be UNCOMFORTABLE.

Growth isn’t comfortable.

Evolving along your path is NOT easy.

The most important thing is to realize these as truths in order to fully EMBRACE it in all its messy and terrifying glory.

It’s truly the only way we can move forward!!

So what do you choose today?

At the end of the day it’s really just a choice and a decision we make.

I know for me, I’m choosing the growth.  I’m choosing to feel the discomfort.

Because I know that this too shall pass, and when it does I’ll be stronger, wiser, and with much more self awareness that fuels my evolution and gets me one step closer to where I want to be.

Remember, it’s time to wake up and live your dream life now!

Love you.


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You. Are. Amazing.



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Islam and Eating Disorders founded in 2012 – run by Maha Khan, the blog creates awareness of Eating Disorders in the Muslim world, offers information and support for sufferers and their loved ones.

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