A common feeling that accompanies Eating Disorder is that of being trapped in an intolerable situation. The sufferer can often see two alternatives, neither of which is possible, and without change the existing situation is too painful. ED causes this illusion.
All too often, this feeling leads to giving up on recovery as the sufferer feels that their situation is insoluble by themselves or others. In almost every situation, there is (at least one) acceptable alternative. Sadly, ED rarely lets people see it. This is why help from a correctly trained professional can be invaluable. They will be aware of the common thought patterns you may be experiencing, and have experience in helping you break out of them.
Please find below a wonderful short article by our favorite Ali Kerr on ‘feeling trapped’. We all feel trapped in our Eating Disorder. We feel limited and simply do not know what to do. Sometimes it feels as if we simply cannot move on with our life and perhaps this is one of the reasons why many people seem to give up on recovery and stay stuck in the limbo of Eating Disorder. It’s quite scary to be confronted with an ED obstacle you cannot seem to tackle. Even though the situation may seem hopeless, there’s much you can do about it. In fact, there are a variety of highly efficient tactics and powerful tricks you can use to free yourself from being stuck in a rut. We hop you’ll find the article below motivating in your journey to recovery and healing.
I remember it well.
It was early in the morning, I had just woken up, the sun was shining through the curtains.
I had just finished University and I was feeling good about myself.
As I lay in bed I made a decision there and then.
Enough was enough.
Today was the day.
No matter what, I was not going to binge on food.
I felt absolutely 100% determined.
I was going to do it.
Nothing was going to stop me.
I was going to use every ounce of my willpower, determination and strength.
I felt confident.
I felt empowered.
I felt like I was ready to take it on.
4 hours. I lasted 4 miserable hours. I felt devastated.
What was wrong with me? Why couldn’t I just stop myself? Where was my willpower? I honestly believed that if I held out long enough and ignored the urge to binge it would just disappear.
And that was it.
The most common mistake people make when they are attempting to overcome binge eating.
Relying solely on willpower.
So, off the bat, I want to tell you there is nothing wrong with your willpower.
Your willpower is fine.
The problem is that you are trapped.
Your body, mind and emotions have become trapped in a continual cycle of bingeing on food.
Until you break free from the trap, binge urges will always remain.
They’ll never go away.
Eventually your willpower to resist the urge runs out.
Imagine you’re caught in a rope trap.
It wouldn’t matter how much you struggled and tried to escape,
until the ropes were untied you would always remain trapped.
It’s not a matter of you just “wanting to escape enough”, you need to be physically released before you can be free.
Think of your willpower like a battery pack.
It’s good for short term goals and general motivation.
No one has enough willpower to continually resist the urge to binge forever. Eventually, no matter how determined you are, if the urge is there, you will give in.
This is the reason why your most fervent promises to stop bingeing, made in the heat of post-binge shame and exasperation, so often fail.
So, stop berating yourself for a lack of willpower or a lack of strength and determination.
You have ample willpower, ample strength and ample determination.
In fact, we are going to tap into that wonderful willpower, strength and determination of yours and use it break free from binge eating forever.
We’ll be posting tips and insights by Ali Kerr over the coming weeks to help you break free!