Fear is inevitable, I have to accept that, but I cannot allow it to paralyze me.”
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
What’s keeping you paralysed in your journey to recovery and healing? When you get right down to it, fear is at the crux of so many stuck moments in our recovery from Eating Disorder. In words of MARC CHERNOFF: Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself a chance to be everything you are capable of being. Although fear can feel overwhelming, and defeats more people than any other force in the world, it’s not as powerful as it seems. Fear is only as deep as your mind allows. You are still in control. The key is to acknowledge your fear and directly address it. You must step right up and confront it face to face.
Please find below a wonderful post by our all time favorite Ali Kerr on ‘Facing Fear’. We hope her brilliant technique will help you in your journey to recovery and healing.
Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid;
courage means you don’t let fear stop you.
Everyone in recovery feels some element of fear. This is perfectly normal and natural.
You’re stepping outside your comfort zone.
You’re stepping into the unknown and it’s very natural to be afraid.
Instead remind yourself that to really grow and evolve in recovery you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone and realize that yes, it can be scary, but really, try to accept this fear. It is okay to be afraid. Always remember, everyone feels afraid at times and this is okay.
This means, resist fighting any fear sensations, resist panicking because they exist, resist trying to get rid of them. If we fight fear it will only make it stronger.
Being afraid is just a sensation. It can not harm you, hurt you or control you. It’s just a feeling within your body. Just like with binge urges, if you learn to accept and embrace any fear feelings they won’t bother you so much and will not cause you as much discomfort. An attitude of acceptance is extremely powerful here.
If the anxious, fear feelings are very strong you may want to try this quick technique:
Flow with Fear Technique
Find a comfortable place to sit down, close your eyes and relax for 10 minutes.
Fall into the sensations. Melt into the feelings. Feel yourself wrapped in a cotton ball of sensation. Let it flow around you. Explore it. Feel it,Realize it cannot harm you in any way. Spend time with it. Realize you are safe. Remind yourself that “It’s okay to be uncomfortable right now” and “I can handle these feelings.”
When you feel ready, at your own pace, face whatever it is that caused you fear in the first place. If you feel afraid again accept any sensations. It is okay to feel afraid. This is a positive sign that you are moving forward in recovery.
This technique will help you to feel more comfortable with any fear sensations. In time and with practice you will realize that fears sensations are nothing to be afraid of. Once you are no longer afraid of ‘feeling afraid’, well then… nothing can stop you!
Also, remember to go slow in recovery, take baby steps if needed and then things won’t seem so scary!
In health and love,