Dear Readers,
Someone asked me, what was the main question, I asked myself when recovering from an Eating Disorder?
Anorexia was a loud wake up call for me. It was a signal that something was wrong in my life and change was needed. It took getting close to death for me to fully appreciate the value of every breath. I had to ask myself one question, is it worth going to your grave with an emaciated body? What if my anorexia doesn’t take me to my grave and what if I have to live rest of my life with this dark menacing illness? My psychiatrist once said to me, ‘don’t tempt the fates and don’t challenge the fates, you never know when the balance may turn against you’. It scared me and from there on I started taking small steps towards recovery.
I found this great article by Dr. Irina Webster on The Main Questions You Must Ask Yourself in order to Cure Your Eating Disorder. If you have an Eating Disorder, know that there’s a better life waiting for you. Please also understand that the food-related behaviors of this eating disorder are a symptom of deeper issues. With the belief in yourself and Almighty Allah and with the help you need, you can work through whatever it is that draws you to these dangerous behaviors. Freedom from Eating Disorder is possible. You may feel hopeless at times, but with some hard work and treatment, you can conquer it.
I cannot claim to have learned everything there is to learn about life and living. Yet, my mind has opened to welcoming recovery and living a life that is free from Eating Disorder rules and regulations. Today I am still recovering, but I’m learning to free myself from the traps of Eating Disorder thinking, and establishing new habits for a better life. I don’t give my Eating Disorder an inch.
So I say thank you Eating Disorder. Thank you depression. Thank you adversity. Thank you Everything for Making me a person I am today.
Always Remember God wants better for you than to remain bound to this difficult eating disorder. We’ve all had our fair shares of struggles, and we’ll all have more—which means we’ll have new opportunities to learn, grow, and share it.
Dr Irina Webster MD is a Director of Women Health Issues Program. She is an author and a public speaker. To read more about family help for eating disorders go to http://www.mom-please-help.com
The Main Questions You Must Ask Yourself in order to Cure Your Eating Disorder.
We have already discussed what eating disorders are about. They are about coping, relationships, life-style, thoughts and feelings.
Sufferers become slaves to their disorder. They do everything possible to be able to act out their compulsions (binging-purging, starving, overexercising, taking laxatives etc.) The ED becomes a substitute for the most valuable things in their lives like friendship and lifestyle.
Think about it– would you have turned to an eating disorder if you had good coping strategies, were able to manage your emotions better and had good relationships with people? Probably not, because eating disorders are always caused by discomfort and discomfort comes from paying too much attention to the problem that caused the discomfort in the first place.
1st question: What would you be doing right now, if you had absolutely no limitations, you were a billionaire, and you knew you could not fail?
2nd question: What would you share with the world, if your message were to be broadcast throughout all of the world’s television stations for 5 minutes? What would you say, what would your message be?
Did you answer these questions? If not stop reading and answer them first… Why?
As we know eating disorders are disorders of:
– life style,
– relationships,
– coping ,
– thoughts and feelings.
So basically what is holding you back from a better life is only a bunch of negative feelings and emotions that appear to be your eating disorder. You really have to think of why this is, what good is it doing you to be held back by something that is not real and thoughts and negative emotion are not real.
They are just how you perceive them to be, ask someone else about these feelings and see what they think. The answer would probably be: so what, what’s the big deal, just laugh them off and get on with life. They are not trying to be mean to you or put your feelings down; they really are not such a big deal in the grand scheme of things. So why are you letting them ruin your life: it just doesn’t make sense?
But now let’s go to your answers for the questions above. Did you find the questions difficult? Or you just can’t believe in that they are possible? If this is the case, please open your mind, accept the possibility without the proof and discover the real you that hides in the shadows of your eating disorder.
Every experience we have had in the past, or will have in the future, always, without exception, has an emotional element attached to it. You got your eating disorder because you started attaching too many emotions to your body image and yourself in general. This emotional component took up most of you attention.
OK there may have been some really bad things that got you to where you are, but you can’t change the past. Is the person responsible for these bad things suffering?
I don’t think so?
So let me ask you this: why are you???
Don’t let these misguided misplaced feelings and emotions ruin your life: it is time for you to change and neuroplasticity will certainly do this for you.
