Take Care of Your Children

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“Bullying is abuse and many kids feel unsafe in school or in their own bodies. Teasing someone because of their weight appears to be a socially acceptable form of prejudice. When weight bullying happens to children, it can perpetuate a cycle of a lack of exercise and using food as a source of comfort. When this happens in the pre-teen years for a child, they are much more susceptible to the development of a negative self image and poor body dissatisfaction. This disposition can last well into adulthood.”

Dear Readers,

Please find below a personal piece on Eating Disorders and our Children. The message we try to convey is Please Take Care of Your Children.

Take Care of Your Children

 

Children will soon forget your presents. They will always remember your presence though.

Author: Anonymous

I find it very disheartening when a young teenager calls me and tells me of her despair with her Eating Disorder. I believe that she should not be subjected to such dangerous thoughts. Her mind should be filled with nice thoughts and the only pressure and tension (little bit of that) she should go through should be related to her homework and deadlines and etc. I find it petrifying when I speak to a 11 year old and she tells me of her feelings of feeling ‘fat’, ‘ugly’ and that she wants to ‘die’. I have good solid years of Eating Disorder behind me and I am one of those ones who were diagnosed at a very late stage. But what I have in common with 11 year old and a young teenager is that how similar our thoughts are. We don’t know each other well and we are not related but what goes through our minds is exactly the same; those whispers that ‘you are ‘trash’, ‘ugly’, ‘you deserve to die’. I have never experienced anything as bad as these thoughts in my life. It’s a mental entrapment with no way out. With bereavements one finds consolation and peace with time. Time becomes a big healer, but with Eating Disorder the longer you live with it, the worst it gets. There is no way out, the only solution is to get help and not to cut corners. Those who recover by themselves and don’t need medical intervention, Subhanallah, God is indeed great, but some us are not so lucky. I struggle when it comes to young girls because they are surrounded by triggers all the time. I blame media for so much of this- the media glamorization of so-called ideal bodies, coupled with the view that dieting is a normal activity has led to a sad rise in pandemic of eating disorders world wide. Obsession with thin bodies, ideal bodies is so strong that many sufferers opt for slow death and suicide then to restore their bodies to normal healthy weight.I also think our families and communities really need to come together and recognize and accept this illness for its menacing destruction. Therapists, doctors and other health care professionals are reporting ever increasing number of young children with anorexia- one study showed that 80 percent of girls were restricting their food intake by age 11

Your Child may be loved at Home but do you know what they have to go through in the outside world?

“Bullying is abuse and many kids feel unsafe in school or in their own bodies. Teasing someone because of their weight appears to be a socially acceptable form of prejudice. When weight bullying happens to children, it can perpetuate a cycle of a lack of exercise and using food as a source of comfort. When this happens in the pre-teen years for a child, they are much more susceptible to the development of a negative self image and poor body dissatisfaction. This disposition can last well into adulthood.”

LISTEN TO THEM

In a busy crazy world it is so easy to say wait a second.The reality is that the wait is never a second, it is not a minute,sometimes the waiting moment is so long that it never comes.

Please don’t label your child’s behaviour as attention seeking behaviour or that he/she is on a diet— understand it’s more than a diet. Don’t tell your child that they need to lose weight, instead promote healthier eating, balanced eating and positive body image. If we are afflicted with a hardship in the face of Eating Disorder sufferer in our family or community, then we should be helping that person, instead of driving them to the point of insanity and making their life even more difficult. It will chill you to your bone, if you could ever get an insight into the mind of an Eating Disorder sufferer. If a friend or loved one begins exhibiting troubling weight loss behaviors, it is important to seek help as quickly as possible. Early intervention significantly increases the chances of lasting eating disorders recovery.

I find Love is the greatest healer of all time.

Eating Disorder treatment + a healthy dose of unconditional love = ultimate recovery.

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Islam and Eating Disorders founded in 2012 – run by Maha Khan, the blog creates awareness of Eating Disorders in the Muslim world, offers information and support for sufferers and their loved ones.

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