Please find below a very inspiring story from Ali Kerr from HealED on ‘prefectionism’. We hope you’ll find the story below as inspiring as we do. Please don’t forget to visit HealED for some wonderful posts . P.S They have coaching spaces available. If you would like to work with Ali or another HealED Coach for your recovery Click here
I have another word for perfectionism.
Trying to be prefect all the time.
Trying to achieve something unrealistic and unattainable.
Anything less won’t do.
It’s all unbelievable pressure, stress and strain.
Behind perfectionism is the fear that we aren’t good enough as we are.
Fear that we are not worthy of love.
I have a simple tool you can use to help combat this type of thinking. Positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are short, positive statements that you can use each day in order to target a specific set of beliefs. Over time they begin to counter your negatively programmed beliefs and help to instill new ones.
This can be especially helpful when you’re struggling with a drive to be perfect
Here are some great examples, if one of them really speaks to you then choose to focus on it this week. If not see if you can come up with your own.
- I feel satisfaction and happiness without needing to be perfect.
- I release myself from the burden of striving for perfection.
- I do not need to eat perfectly all of the time as long as I am trying my best.
- I allow myself to feel deeper levels of satisfaction and pleasure.
- I am open to and accept the feeling of being good enough just the way I am.
- I am a unique human being of value; my value can never be taken away.
- There is nobody in the world just like me – I need not compare myself to others to feel special.
- I accept myself as the best person I can be.
- I give my best and that is good enough.
Give it a try for a week and see if it works for you.
Also, I just received a great recovery story from a Coaching Client and I want to share it with you. I hope it inspires you for your recovery!
I will let her share her story in her own words.
For years I was in a long, overwhelming, isolating battle with food. I thought life had to be that way for me.
That something as simple as enjoying a meal at a restaurant with friends was out of the question.
There were so many years that went by where I truly believed my eating disorder would always win and that there was nothing I could do to stop it, no matter how hard I tried.
I had tried to overcome my eating disorder so many times, in so many different ways, but nothing ever seemed to work.
I was hesitant to try the coaching program for fear that it wouldn’t work. I was unsure. I felt embarrassed, ashamed, and defeated, and I was worried that this would just be another addition to my long list of things that failed to help me recover.
However, the moment I began working with my coach, all the fear and uncertainty started melting away.
I finally had someone in my life who not only truly understood what I was going through but had succeeded in recovery herself.
Her guidance and support was so meaningful, genuine, and compassionate. She inspired me, motivated me, celebrated my every accomplishment, and was there to pick me back up when I had setbacks and doubts.
She was there for me every step of the way, through the good and the bad, celebrating my successes, and supporting me through my failures. I never once felt embarrassed or judged. In fact, for the first time ever, I felt completely understood and comfortable.
No matter how I was feeling or what I was going through, she always knew exactly what to say to help guide me through it.
During my time in the coaching program, I grew as a person in more ways than I ever expected.
For the first time in my life, I actually enjoy food and no longer avoid or worry about situations with family and friends where food is involved.
My respect and love for my body has increased, and I finally have a healthy view on exercise.
I’ve accomplished so much in the past year, and I can’t wait to see where an eating disorder free life continues to take me. I can not say enough good things about my experience with the coaching program. I will forever be beyond grateful for my amazing coach, this program, and how it gave me my life back.
I don’t even know where to begin, so to put it simply, THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for helping me get my life back.