You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.
Mary Oliver, “Wild Geese”
Please find below an incredible post from Ali Kerr on self care. We hope you’ll find this post useful in your journey to healing and recovery.
Everyone deserves to feel loved and cared for.
That includes you.
You deserve to be loved and cared for.
But mostly by yourself.
Yes, I know, you’re not perfect (because there is no such thing!)
Yes, I know you have stuff you don’t like about yourself (we all do too!)
I know each day can be a challenge (especially if your suffering with an ED)
But, guess what.
You’re not alone.
EVERYONE has daily challenges and struggles.
EVERYONE has doubts, fears and insecurities.
EVERYONE has times when they feel not good enough, not smart enough, not worthy of love.
And that’s ok.
It’s not about achieving perfection,
It’s about accepting you are human, with all your beauty and all your flaws.
The fact is:
Even with all your flaws (we all have them), you ARE good enough, you ARE worthy of love.
You deserve to be happy and well,
And you should be doing what you can to get there.
Because you are the first and best person to do it.
So when I am talking about caring for yourself,
I am talking about words like nourish, nurture, recharge, refuel, love and kindness.
You can just start with little things:
Get to bed by 10.30 most nights
Take a yoga class
Spend more time with loved ones
Spent time in nature.
Figure out what works for you.
One of my favorite things to do is to lay down in the middle
of the living room and have my 5-year old jump on my
feet and pretend to fly. Just silly, goofy fun.
Learning to look after yourself can feel weird if you’re not used to it.
It can feel self-indulgent and selfish.
But when we look after ourselves, we feel better.
Life flows better.
We are more present and engaged in life.
We have more energy to give to other people.
We are less selfish, less self-absorbed.
And we are less inclined to turn to food for emotional comfort.
So start today.
Start caring for your needs.
Do at least one thing every day.
Make it a habit.
And never doubt that you deserve it.
You are worthy.
You are good enough.