Eating disorders are not a choice, and to insinuate that someone with an eating disorder has willpower is to insinuate that they have a choice.
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Please find below a wonderful article by Ali Kerr from Heal ED on will power. With Eating Disorders we develop habits and behaviors. With time these habits and behaviors run our daily life. Pretty much everything you do is based on a habit you’ve developed with your Eating Disorder.
Nearly all of these behaviors and habits work against you. Even worse – there are a few “habits/behaviors” that can have a negative, long-term impact on your capacity to live a fulfilling life.
Fortunately, it is possible to eliminate a negative ED routine – all you need is a plan-of-action, commitment to recovery and seeing your illness for what it is a menacing destruction. Eating Disorders are not about will power they are a real mental illness that need treatment. I hope you’ll find the article below on will power helpful in your journey to healing and recovery.
Have you ever said this to yourself?
“It needs to stop right now! It’s over. No matter what I will never binge again!!”
Have you ever thought that you just needed to “try harder” to resist the urge to binge?
That you just needed more willpower?
But no matter how hard you struggled, fought and battled you always ended up bingeing.
If this has happened to you, then you know how it can make you feel.
It can make you question your sanity, your willpower and you begin to wonder if you are doomed for a life living with ED.
Each time you fail to stop a binge episode it further cements the belief that there is something inherently wrong with you.
In reality: Nothing could be further from the truth.
Your eating disorder has nothing to do with your integrity as a person.
If you restrict your food intake, your natural defense mechanism, which ensures you eat enough will be triggered. This natural defense mechanism creates an overwhelming desire to binge on food. And this is extremely powerful.
I mean really ridiculously powerful.
It originates from a primal part of your being. It overrides your logic and willpower.
You have no choice in this. Once this is triggered you will eat food. And probably eat lots of it.
No matter how hard we try our primal need to eat will override our desire not to eat.
Willpower is useless against the binge urge.
The fact is, willpower is only good for short term goals and it only works for so long.
No one – anywhere – has enough willpower to continually resist the urge to binge forever.
Eventually you WILL give in.
This is why your most fervent promises to stop bingeing always failed. You (like everyone else on the planet) are genetically programmed to binge on food after restricting.
It’s the same primal force that compels us to breathe after holding our breath for any length of time. It hijacks your body and mind. In a way its more powerful than you.
So let’s be really, really clear on this. IF YOU ARE MALNOURISHED, YOU WILL BINGE. This will happen to ANYONE on the planet.
In order to stop bingeing you needed to stop restricting.
Let me repeat that: In order to stop bingeing you needed to stop restricting.
This is the BIG KEY to your recovery.
By stopping food restriction you boost your metabolism, increase your energy levels and most importantly experience a massive reduction in binge urges.
And don’t worry your weight isn’t going to spiral out of control. Research (and personal experience) shows that most people with bulimia, in the healthy weight range, who adopt regular eating habits and don’t purge, end up within 1kg of where they started, and some even lose weight.
Seriously, this is a huge cornerstone of recovery.
You need to feed it to beat it.
To your recovery,
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